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“So many people dream of living in a house with a white picket fence. Little do they know, there’s no such thing as a perfect family, no matter how white the picket fence is…I can say with certainty that we live in the most unusual house in this whole town. I say house because it is certainly not a home. And inside this house are seven of the most unusual occupants. No one would be able to determine from the outside of our house that our family of seven includes an atheist, a homewrecker, an ex-wife suffering from a severe case of agoraphobia, and a teenage girl whose weird obsession borders on necrophilia. No one would be able to determine any of that from inside our house, either. We’re good at keeping secrets in this family.” “I’m sick of the secrets and I’m sick of the lies. And I’m tired of being the one person in this house who has to hold on to all of them!...Maybe that’s the root of a lot of family issues. It isn't actually the issues people are hung up about for so long. It’s that no one has the courage to take the first step in talking about the issues.” “Having depression is no more out of your control than…intolerance to milk, or…pale skin, or…bad vision. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. But it’s not something you can ignore or correct on your own. And it doesn’t make you abnormal.” We perceive normal as “most people without a broken brain.” But “We’re all a degree of fucked-up.” Without Merit deftly interweaves mental illness with global immigration. We often approach both with the attitude: “It’s never directly affected me so I’ve never thought to even look into it.” Perspective is “kind of like putting someone else’s eyeballs inside your own head…You shouldn’t compare your stress to mine. We all have different baselines.” It is often easy to be candid about others’ secrets yet difficult to express our own truths. When the burden of Merit’s silence threatens to suffocate her, she determines, “Don’t make your presence known. Make your absence felt…If I stopped showing up, life would go on. With or without Merit.” However, she discovers, “Not every mistake deserves a consequence. Sometimes the only thing it deserves is forgiveness.”